Thank You for Your Sacrifice
Year One, Week Twenty-Six
The Fourth of July, 2018 is less than approximately twenty-six hours away as I write this article. It is fitting at this time to reflect on the sacrifices of innumerable veterans and active military that have provided me the freedom to write and you to read these words.
Servicemen and women embody a type of love, the fifth of five endangered characteristics of true character suggested by Bill Hybels in his book Who You Are When No One’s Looking: Choosing Consistency, Resisting Compromise. The previous two weeks have focused on tender and tough love in lives of compassionate and hardhearted people. This week I share with you a third type of love, sacrificial love.
Jesus said in John 15: 13, “Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends” (KJV). Soldiers daily put themselves in jeopardy to protect freedom for those of us who neither served in the armed forces nor show them the respect deserving of such sacrifice.
Love for mankind always involves sacrifice—it is more about being a servant than a hero. Not everyone has the opportunity to demonstrate sacrificial love by something as great as being a soldier or saving a stranger from a burning building. Often, such love is often shown in small ways. Sacrificial love is about giving, not receiving, and always costs the giver something. Hybels discusses three major categories of this cost in three areas of life—friendships, marriage, and the workplace.
First is time. True friendship, successful marriages and good workplace relationships take an investment of time, not only when things are pleasant and lovely, but when there is sickness, arguments, financial loss. The same vows prevalent in marriage ceremonies could also be applicable to relationships with friends and co-workers—in sickness and in health, for richer or poorer, for better or worse.
A second cost of sacrificial love is energy. A synonym for energy in this case might be “work”. True friendships don’t just accidentally happen, and the same is true for marriages and relationships with co-workers. The worldview promotes self-gratification through books, articles, commercials and advertisements. Too many children in public schools are taught the value of a good self-esteem without consideration for others’ feelings. When such children become adults, they often form superficial friendships, marriages and work relations with others similar to themselves. These relationships work for a while, until a need arises—then, because everyone is self-centered and not sympathetic or empathetic, needs go unfulfilled, and the friendship fails because of lack of commitment. Where there is a dry well, no water can be drawn, and thirst remains.
Time and energy are intangibles, but there is a third, tangible cost to sacrificial love—money. Money in and of itself is not a bad thing—it is the love of money that is the root of all evil (I Timothy 6:10 KJV). Surely everyone could give numerous examples of this. I once knew two people. One had a car that was inherited from a parent that was rarely driven, while the other had a son who had a wreck and needed a car. When the person whose son had a need asked the other for the loan of the car, an emphatic NO with an oath was the reply, and the friendship cooled.
The ultimate danger of the cheerful, sacrificial giver is the disappointment that comes with being taken advantage of and lack of recognition. A sacrificial giver can become disillusioned to the point of despair.
But do not confuse the “good old boy system” with sacrificial giving. There is a philosophy prevalent in our area that if a person does a good deed for someone, that person will in turn be obligated to return the favor upon demand. I knew a gentleman once who favored himself a politician. He showered his many “friends” with favors, but when he called to collect on his investments, he had stretched himself so thin and had become so politically impotent that those “friends” felt no obligation to waste a favor on one who could not pay them back.
Sacrificial giving in its purest sense means doing things for others with no thought of repayment. It was exemplified in my life by several people: the man who gave me five dollar bills when I was a child in church, knowing that I could not do anything for him; the church who gave my family a food basket after my father died, knowing that we would never contribute one dime to their offering; the lady who had her own children to provide for, yet bought me a suit to wear to my high school graduation; the elderly lady who took me into her home while my father was ill so I wouldn’t have to change schools, only to realize loss of privacy and the unknown demands of dealing with a headstrong teenager; the kind teacher who bought me a set of magic markers and delivered them to my house on a Saturday.
These memories make me ashamed of my own selfishness. I hope one day someone can remember me for having made her/his life better, just as my life has been made better by the examples of those listed above.
In my next article I plan to go radical!!!
Historians will record 2018 as the second year in a row of a balanced budget for Union County; likely the most significant legislative accomplishment of the County Commission in a generation. Union County’s budget is one of the most important pieces of public policy the Commission enacts every year.
My husband's widowed mother married her former brother-in-law in our living room. Uncle Charlie had hurt his leg putting down our well on the property of what was to be our new home, closer to my husband's work. The minister said it wasn't written anywhere that you had to stand to be married. We were all seated.
Back to the well. The water table was high at the new place. We didn't need to drill a well, Uncle Charlie said. He would help us pound down a well. It was cheaper to do than drilling a well. The three of us could do it.
Some spices I am privileged to experience from the side line.
That spring evening, my daughter Sara’s softball team was playing the number one, undefeated team in their league. The other team were all 12 years old whereas Sara’s teammates were barely 10. We went in with no illusions of victory. If we were lucky, we may get one run.
At the top of the third inning, Sara went up to bat. At this point, none of ours girls had made it to first base, which was no surprise. At least they looked cute in their red, white, and blue outfits.
The pitcher threw. Sara swung.
I remember when I worked full time in a sewing factory. My mind would wander while sewing. After you do the same stitching over and over, it doesn't take all your attention to do the job. My mind would wander to wondering what I would fix for supper that evening. My kids were in the lower grades in school and came home about the same time I did. They had a long bus ride.
When you run across a snake, their normal reaction is to get away. But if they feel threatened enough all snakes will bite defensibly. If you are bitten, here are some recommended first aide treatments.
Try to determine if it’s venomous or not. If you’re confident it’s not you can treat the bite like you would a puncture wound. Check with your doctor to see if you might need a tetanus shot booster.
Narrow Ridge invites our friends and neighbors to join us for our open music jam on Saturday, July 21 at our outdoor stage just up the road from our Mac Smith Resource Center at 1936 Liberty Hill Rd. We are happy to announce that local artists, Dixie Nicely and Wendal Sturgill, will kick off the festivities from 6:30 to 7:00 pm. 7:00 will begin the open mic/jam portion of the evening when we invite guests to share their talents in a forum that provides equal time to all who wish to participate.
"We invite all area Worship Leaders, Pastors, and Faith community leaders to come together on the last Thursday of each month at Hardee's at 7:30 am. This is to be a time of fellowship, prayer, and discussion about how we as a community of Faith can work together to have a positive impact on our county. All are welcome!" Margaret Chesney
The next regular workshop and meeting of the Union County Board of Education will be held on Thursday, July 26, 2018 at 6:00 p.m. at Union County High School. The workshop will begin at 6:00 p.m. with the meeting immediately to follow.
REGULAR WORKSHOP UNION COUNTY BOARD OF EDUCATION THURSDAY, JULY 26, 2018 6:00 p.m. Union County High School
1. Discuss School Trips
· None at Time of Publication
2. Budget Amendments and Transfers/Director’s Monthly Report—Ann Dyer
On February 22, 2018, A Call To Prayer was made in the Luttrell Community. Several community pastor agreed to go back to their respective churches and call on their members to pray for the Lord to guide in an effort to unite our churches with a common goal of a Community Worship & Revival leading folks to Jesus the only begotten son of God.
Benny went to sit on the lap of his LORD and SAVIOR Saturday July 14, 2018 at children's hospital.
Benny our sweet angel is the son of April King. Grandson to Sherri and Matt Bridges. Benny was also a brother to Kyle King and Jesse Perry. Great Grandchild of Barbara Brown along with Ronnie and Tina Bridges. Benny was the nephew of Alley King, Jacob King, Ethan Muehliesen, Leah Bridges, Isaiah Bridges, Faith Bridges and Noah Bridges.
Proceeded in death by great grandfather W.L. Carmon Our love for our sweet Benny will forever be. Always our sweet Angel!!
Donald H. Norris-age 64 of Maynardville passed away Monday morning, July 16, 2018 at his home. He was a member of Cedar Grove Baptist Church. Preceded in death by parents, Roy and Maude E. Norris; brother, David Norris.
Barbara Kay “Momma” Burkhert, age 72, went to be with the Lord on July 15, 2018. She had 3 kids, John J. Viglasky, Liesa Canupp, and Greg Viglasky. She also had 3 grandkids Ashley Taylor, Stacey Canupp, Taylor Viglasky, as well as, 4 great-grandkids. Family will receive friends 5:00-7:00pm Thursday July 19, 2018 at Mynatt Funeral Home Halls Chapel with service to follow. Family and friends will meet 10:45am Friday July 20, 2018 at Fort Sumter Cemetery for and 11:00am interment. Please leave online condolences at www.mynattfh.com
LaVerne McLain Cummings, of Knoxville, suddenly went to be with her Lord and Savior Jesus Christ Wednesday, July 11th, 2018 at Parkwest Hospital. Preceded in death by parents Ed and Mildred McLain, grandson Chad Breeden, and sister Sandra Leach. Survived by loving husband Harlan J. Cummings, daughter Angelia (Bob) Love, son Brent Cox, grandson whom she raised Matthew (Amber) Cox, granddaughters Amanda Dykes and Brittney Russell, sisters Faye (Roger) Neff and Burlene Tolman, as well as 6 great grandkids. She was looking forward to seeing her great grandson Grantley expected in August.
Michael Ernest Smith – age 53 of Maynardville, passed away suddenly Saturday, July 8, 2018.
Michael is preceded in death by his parents, Ernest and Mary Smith; and sister, Barbara Smith. He is survived by his son, Daniel; sister, Debra (Stacy) Lynn; special niece, Emily; special nephews, Derrick and Aaron Lynn; several aunts, uncles and other nieces and nephews.
Jackie Owen Carpenter, age 83, passed away at home on July 9, 2018. Jack was born October 28, 1934 in Claiborne County and graduated from Claiborne County High School in 1952. He served in the U.S. Army from 1957-1960. He earned his BA from University of California, Northridge in 1972. Jack accepted Christ at an early age and was a member of Salem Baptist Church, where he taught Sunday School for many years. He retired in 1998 from Harrison-Chihowee Baptist Academy (The Kings Academy) after 22 years of working as Business Manager.
Carolyn Lee Underwood-age 52 of Maynardville went to be with the Lord, Monday, July 9, 2018 at her home. She was a member of Grace Full Gospel Baptist Church. Preceded in death by husband, Richard Williams; grandson, Richard Dylangaddy.
Survivors: daughters, Alicia Williams, Chassitty Williams; son, Cory Underwood; husband, Randy Underwood; sisters, Charlene Gouldie, Sandra Bryant, parents, Alice and Robert England; two granddaughters, Mackenzie Mixon and Alyssa Gaddy; many nieces, nephews and a host of friends.
Steven James See, age 35 of Knoxville, went to be with the Lord July 6, 2018. He was a member of Bethlehem Baptist Church. Steven was always a friendly, outgoing young man and always had a smile on his face. He loved going to church and enjoyed fishing with his friends. He was a great uncle to his niece and nephews, as well as, a wonderful step-dad to Courtney and Austin. Preceded in death by father Steve See; grandmother, Bobbie Franklin; uncle Jack McClain.