Marriage and Love, Carriage and Horse

Ronnie Mincey

Mincey’s Musings
Year One, Week Thirty-Nine

Most weeks I know by the end of the article what I intend to write about next. When I posted last week’s article, I had not one clue what my topic would be. I have been waiting, expecting inspiration to come to me at any minute.

And it arrived, where I might expect inspiration and revelation to come, during last Wednesday evening’s church service. Our pastor was discussing marriage and divorce from 1 Corinthians 7, and he backtracked to Deuteronomy 24. I have deduced from this discussion three phases of governance of marriage and divorce.

The first phase is the governance prescribed by Moses in the first five books of the Old Testament. I searched Google and discovered an article by Ralph H. Alexander regarding the definition of the word “divorce” in Baker’s Evangelical Dictionary of Biblical Theology. Alexander stated, “Divorce is first mentioned in the Mosaic covenant (cf. Lev 21:14 ; Deuteronomy 22:13-19 Deuteronomy 22:28-29), but it was already occurring in Israel.”  Just as the case remains today, the act was already occurring before the law was established to govern the practice.

Alexander later continued, “The basis [reason] for divorce in Deuteronomy 21:1 is from a word translated as “some indecency”—while the exact intent is uncertain, Alexander continues: “However this phrase is understood, the text implies that this continued ‘indecency’ was so vile that divorce was preferred by the husband.” The first four verses of Deuteronomy 24 discuss divorce resulting from a man being displeased with his wife after he has married her and the possibility of her future marriage. Our pastor read and discussed these verses.

Our pastor did not read the next verse, but I read it silently to myself. Deuteronomy 24:5 (KJV) begins a different tone concerning marriage:

When a man hath taken a new wife, he shall not go out to war, neither shall he be charged with any business: but he shall be free at home one year, and shall cheer up his wife which he hath taken.

 I could not help but see the humor in this verse. May God forgive me if I seem irreverent, but I thought: “How pitiful it would be for a man to marry and have to take one whole year to cheer up his wife! I would hope it wouldn’t be that devastating to her. I’d hate to be the man whose wife was so disappointed with him that he had to take an entire year to cheer her up!”

Personally, I believe God has a sense of humor, and I think it was God’s gift to me to allow me to see humor in this verse. One thing that must be remembered when reading Scripture is that the meaning of the words used in the 1611 King James Version of the Bible (consequently, written in the language Shakespeare used in his plays) is oftentimes different than the meaning those same words presently convey. Another Google search of BibleHub quotes the Jamieson-Fausset-Brown Bible Commentary: “This law of exemption [that of going to war] was founded on good policy and was favorable to matrimony, as it afforded a full opportunity for the affections of the newly married pair being more firmly rooted, and it diminished or removed occasions for . . . divorces . .”. Also quoted is the Geneva Study Bible, which words the last part of the verse “that they might learn to know one another's conditions, and so afterward live in godly peace.” In other words, it was the custom of the time.

How would that work today? Imagine a man marrying, and being free from all obligations for the entire first year of his marriage except for focused attention on his wife? How would he provide for his bride? Would there be men who would marry several times, so they could have several entire years with no requirement to work? How would such couples live in today’s world if they didn’t work for the first year? What if the wife decided she was unhappy and wanted the divorce, even before the end of the first year? That could certainly pose problems, also. Then there are those couples like the one on an episode of The Andy Griffith Show who were not content unless they were arguing. When they were pleasant to each other, they were hateful to everyone else.

A second phase of the governance of marriage is found in the New Testament. Pretty much, the Bible only condones divorce for fornication, or adultery. There are many other situations that are governed by modern civil laws regarding marriage, separation and divorce, encompassing such topics as spousal abuse and irreconcilable differences as grounds. Many divorcees suffer from atychiphobia, the fear of failure. Perhaps many divorces result from aphenphosmphobia, the fear of intimacy, or gamophobia, the fear of commitment. Divorcees need compassion, not condemnation.

Thankfully, I am not a marriage counselor. Also thankfully, it is not given to me to judge others’ situations or reasons for the choices they make. I have enough to handle dealing with my own life. I personally spent eight years dating my wife, and have been married to her twelve years, and there are times I still wonder if I’ve made her happy! (After all, I did have to ask her three times to marry me!) One thing’s for sure, I’ve sure had a lot of fun over the years at her expense, though she hasn’t always appreciated my sense of humor.

Genesis 2:18 says, “And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.” God understood that many humans suffer from monophobia, the fear of being alone. Ebenezer Scrooge himself was affected when the ghost of Christmas future showed him his unkempt, unvisited and unremembered grave.

Proverbs 18:22 (KJV) says, “Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord.” I indeed was lucky when that good thing found me (she originally asked me out), and I hope she feels herself equally blessed.

I leave you this week with more words of wisdom sent to me via email:

Pharmacist to customer: “Sir, please understand, to buy an anti-depression pill you need a proper prescription ... 
Simply showing your marriage certificate and wife’s picture is not enough! 



Get Your Morning Mojo at Liquid Lightning

Liquid Lightning

It is a great time to be a coffee drinker in Maynardville. Whether you are waking up early headed to work, finishing up the morning school drop offs, or just plain love to guzzle coffee all day, with one sip you will be sure to add a new stop to your daily route. Liquid Lightning, a local veteran owned and operated coffee shop, has opened their doors and put the go-juice on to brew with a goal of bringing delicious coffee, lots of laughs, and a sense of joy and comfort to the community.

Win for Author Kaye George

Kaye George

Knoxville TN: Local author Kaye George took home a second place win from BOULD (Bizarre, Outrageous, Unfettered, Limitless, Daring) for her short story Dream Girl. The story is published in BOULD Awards Short Story Anthology and is now available on Amazon.

Shirleys Bread

Shirley's Bread

I got a call from Aaron Russell the other day. He was checking to see how I was doing. He hadn't talked with me in a while. During the conversation, he mentions that he likes to bake bread. Not just any bread, but salt-rising bread. He described the process as well as how good the bread tastes. That got me thinking.

Ambulance Selfie

Ambulance Selfie

“Well, you always want an adventure!” Lynda locked the car doors.

It’s an interesting story how we had gotten to that point. Lynda is my best friend and cousin. We played ball together, ran around together, and went to the same middle and high school.

George Washington Cherry Treat

George Washington Cherry Treat

Fresh pie cherries aren't available in February. That's okay. Food City does my canning for me these days. They have one pound cans of red tart cherries on the shelf every day. I call them sour cherries.

Do you really think George cut down a cherry tree? Do you really think he fested up to the deed? Naw. George was known as a ladies man. I wouldn't be surprised if he did tell a lie now and then.

Science versus Faith

Blaise Pascal

Blaise Pascal once said, “The heart has its reasons, of which reason knows nothing… We know truth, not only by reason, but also by the heart.”

Pascal was a genius and a genuine polymath who lived in the 17th century. To cover his accomplishments and body of work would require volumes, which have already been written. I want to focus on the concept he so poetically illustrated above – the ever-present battle between the head and the heart. Specifically,

Cherry Creme Fudge

Cherry Creme Fudge

Here is a fudge recipe I made a long time ago, that is, if you call 1981 a long time ago. Fudge recipes have evolved over the years. They are easier to make now. Just cook up some sugar and evaporated milk. Add chocolate and marshmallow cream and you have fudge. But it is not the same as the old fashioned variety. Oldsters will agree with me. (I will share one of those recipes at a later date.).

Failed Back Surgery Is Relatively Common

Failed Back Surgery Is Relatively Common

Failed back surgery (continued low back and leg pain after surgery) is relatively common according to a new report from the Boston University School of Medicine. With each reoperation, success, as defined by pain reduction, becomes less likely and most patients do not improve. However, preliminary studies using a simple procedure to remove scar tissue or adhesions suggests a new treatment could help those with post-surgical, chronic low back pain.

The German Beer Stein

German Beer Stein

I have had a beautiful beer stein since World War II. My brother, Rodney, sent it back from Germany. He was part of a Navy goodwill tour that started at England then went on to Germany. He sent back two beer steins and a Black Forest coo coo clock from there.

When he returned home, Rod took back the coo coo clock and one beer stein. That left me with one beer stein. I have placed that beautiful beer stein in a prominent place in my home as I moved around the country. It is time to give it a permanent home while I am still here to do so.


Interested in Homeschooling?

Monday, February 25, 2019 - 18:00

Join us for our annual Mom's night out. Monday, February 25, at six pm when April Shepherd, from the Smoky Mountain Home Education Association will be speaking at Hardees. April, a proponent of country living and a successful homeschooling Mother, will be speaking on using everyday living to teach fundamentals and life skills. She has titled her talk, "Little House on the Prairie Schooling". Sponsored by the local support group of homeschooling families, more information can be obtained by contacting Connie Dickey @ 865-992-3629

Mens Conference

Friday, March 1, 2019 - 19:00
Alder Springs Missionary Baptist Church

Alder Springs Missionary Baptist Church will be hosting a Men’s Conference on Friday, March 1st at 7:00 P.M. and Saturday, March 2nd at 9:30 A.M.
Evangelists will be Rev. Jerry Vittatoe and Rev. Mike Viles. Pastor, Rev. Jimmy Davidson extends a hearty welcome to all men.

4-H County Baking Contest

Monday, March 18, 2019 - 17:00

After youth have participated in school during February, they will be awarded a blue ribbon to move forward to the county contest. The entries at the county will be due for judging on March 18 then displayed with awards at the Extension Month Open House on March 19 for sampling.

MPL Small Business Expo

Saturday, March 23, 2019 - 09:00

Small Business Expo
Hosted by Maynardville Public Library
296 Main St, Maynardville, Tennessee 37807
Saturday, March 23, 2019 at 9 AM – 1 PM
Our 3rd Annual Expo to showcase the many small businesses in Union County. Drop by to see what our county has to offer and support these local businesses.
If you are a business owner looking to attend fill out the following google form by March 15th


Franklin Delano Capps

Frank Capps-age 85 of Knoxville passed away Thursday morning, February 21, 2019 at U. T. Medical Center. Member of Warwick’s Chapel Baptist Church. He was a U. S. Army Veteran. Frank was a long-standing owner/operator of auto service garages in the Luttrell area. Preceded in death by wife, Ithel McHone Capps; daughter, Brenda Smyth.

Obituary for Mary Carolyn Childress

Mary Carolyn Childress, age 84 of East Knoxville, passed away Thursday, February 21, 2019 at her home. She attended Buffat Heights Baptist Church. She was a long- time employee of Supreme Contracting. She was the daughter of the late Carl and Frances Whitt, Proceeded in death by Jack Childress. Survived by brothers; Ronnie (Phyllis) Whitt, Tom (Jo) Whitt, and Steve Whitt. Several nieces, nephews, great nieces, and great nephews. Longtime friends, Mack and Lily Thomas and Bryan and Sherry Linander.

Janice Ann Beeler Fields

Janice Ann Beeler Fields-age 66 of Corbin, Kentucky passed away suddenly Monday morning, February 18, 2019 at her home. She was a loving mother, nana, sister and friend. She will be sadly missed by all. Janice was a member of Nave Hill Baptist Church and was a former co-owner of Fields Apparel in Monticello, Kentucky. She was recently employed at SEKRI, Corbin, Kentucky for 22 years. Preceded in death by parents, James Aubrey and Lillie Beeler, two brothers, Gary and Terry Beeler; nephew, Adam Beeler.

Robert Bradley Douglas

Robert Bradley Douglas, known as Brad Douglas, was born October 12th, 1978. Brad spent his life in the Knoxville area embracing the Tennessee Volunteers, fishing and hiking. Brad's favorite thing to do was to take him and his family exploring. It is with great sadness that the family of Brad Douglas announces his passing at the age of 40. His spirit, enthusiasm and willingness to put other's needs above his own will be missed but not forgotten.

Robert Bruce Kezer

R. Bruce Kezer-age 84 of Knoxville departed this world for heaven on February 15 from his home. His family was at his side. Born in Jersey City, NJ, on September 30, 1934 to Edwin and Ruth (Adams) Kezer, Bruce graduated from the University of Vermont in 1957. He then entered the US Army and served, in peacetime, for three years until being honorably discharged at the rank of Lieutenant. Bruce loved Jesus with all his heart, and worked to live instead of the other way around.

Thomas Michael McLaughlin

Thomas M. McLaughlin age 57 currently of Maynardville TN, formerly of Edison NJ, passed away on February 8th 2019 at UT Hospital following an exhausting battle with cancer. Preceded in death by father, Thomas W, and brother Michael W McLaughlin.

Survived by wife Kathie, daughter and son-in-law Jennifer McLaughlin and Josh Lamb, son TJ, mother Elaine, sister and brother-in-law Lori and Gary Yurchak, grandchildren Chris and Michael, as well as a host of other relatives and friends.

Judson "Juddy" Bailey

Judson “Juddy“ Bailey - age 79 of Washburn, was born on February 27, 1939 and passed away peacefully on Sunday, February 10, 2019. We all called him Pap. He was a member of Nave Hill Baptist Church. He loved his family, hunting, playing cards, dogs and driving around. He spent his last few months putting on his shoes and saying “I believe I will go home”. He is finally “home“, peacefully in the arms of Jesus.

Frances Jane Nichols

Frances Jane Nichols “Janey”, age 61, of Rockford, went to be with the Lord on February 8, 2019, surrounded by her loved ones. She was a beloved mom, sister, and granny. Preceded in death by parents Jack Huggins and Bernice Van Dyke, brother Jackie Huggins, sisters Sarah Munsey, Sandy Huggins, and Darlene Dunaway.

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