Marriage and Love, Carriage and Horse
Year One, Week Thirty-Nine
Most weeks I know by the end of the article what I intend to write about next. When I posted last week’s article, I had not one clue what my topic would be. I have been waiting, expecting inspiration to come to me at any minute.
And it arrived, where I might expect inspiration and revelation to come, during last Wednesday evening’s church service. Our pastor was discussing marriage and divorce from 1 Corinthians 7, and he backtracked to Deuteronomy 24. I have deduced from this discussion three phases of governance of marriage and divorce.
The first phase is the governance prescribed by Moses in the first five books of the Old Testament. I searched Google and discovered an article by Ralph H. Alexander regarding the definition of the word “divorce” in Baker’s Evangelical Dictionary of Biblical Theology. Alexander stated, “Divorce is first mentioned in the Mosaic covenant (cf. Lev 21:14 ; Deuteronomy 22:13-19 Deuteronomy 22:28-29), but it was already occurring in Israel.” Just as the case remains today, the act was already occurring before the law was established to govern the practice.
Alexander later continued, “The basis [reason] for divorce in Deuteronomy 21:1 is from a word translated as “some indecency”—while the exact intent is uncertain, Alexander continues: “However this phrase is understood, the text implies that this continued ‘indecency’ was so vile that divorce was preferred by the husband.” The first four verses of Deuteronomy 24 discuss divorce resulting from a man being displeased with his wife after he has married her and the possibility of her future marriage. Our pastor read and discussed these verses.
Our pastor did not read the next verse, but I read it silently to myself. Deuteronomy 24:5 (KJV) begins a different tone concerning marriage:
When a man hath taken a new wife, he shall not go out to war, neither shall he be charged with any business: but he shall be free at home one year, and shall cheer up his wife which he hath taken.
I could not help but see the humor in this verse. May God forgive me if I seem irreverent, but I thought: “How pitiful it would be for a man to marry and have to take one whole year to cheer up his wife! I would hope it wouldn’t be that devastating to her. I’d hate to be the man whose wife was so disappointed with him that he had to take an entire year to cheer her up!”
Personally, I believe God has a sense of humor, and I think it was God’s gift to me to allow me to see humor in this verse. One thing that must be remembered when reading Scripture is that the meaning of the words used in the 1611 King James Version of the Bible (consequently, written in the language Shakespeare used in his plays) is oftentimes different than the meaning those same words presently convey. Another Google search of BibleHub quotes the Jamieson-Fausset-Brown Bible Commentary: “This law of exemption [that of going to war] was founded on good policy and was favorable to matrimony, as it afforded a full opportunity for the affections of the newly married pair being more firmly rooted, and it diminished or removed occasions for . . . divorces . .”. Also quoted is the Geneva Study Bible, which words the last part of the verse “that they might learn to know one another's conditions, and so afterward live in godly peace.” In other words, it was the custom of the time.
How would that work today? Imagine a man marrying, and being free from all obligations for the entire first year of his marriage except for focused attention on his wife? How would he provide for his bride? Would there be men who would marry several times, so they could have several entire years with no requirement to work? How would such couples live in today’s world if they didn’t work for the first year? What if the wife decided she was unhappy and wanted the divorce, even before the end of the first year? That could certainly pose problems, also. Then there are those couples like the one on an episode of The Andy Griffith Show who were not content unless they were arguing. When they were pleasant to each other, they were hateful to everyone else.
A second phase of the governance of marriage is found in the New Testament. Pretty much, the Bible only condones divorce for fornication, or adultery. There are many other situations that are governed by modern civil laws regarding marriage, separation and divorce, encompassing such topics as spousal abuse and irreconcilable differences as grounds. Many divorcees suffer from atychiphobia, the fear of failure. Perhaps many divorces result from aphenphosmphobia, the fear of intimacy, or gamophobia, the fear of commitment. Divorcees need compassion, not condemnation.
Thankfully, I am not a marriage counselor. Also thankfully, it is not given to me to judge others’ situations or reasons for the choices they make. I have enough to handle dealing with my own life. I personally spent eight years dating my wife, and have been married to her twelve years, and there are times I still wonder if I’ve made her happy! (After all, I did have to ask her three times to marry me!) One thing’s for sure, I’ve sure had a lot of fun over the years at her expense, though she hasn’t always appreciated my sense of humor.
Genesis 2:18 says, “And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.” God understood that many humans suffer from monophobia, the fear of being alone. Ebenezer Scrooge himself was affected when the ghost of Christmas future showed him his unkempt, unvisited and unremembered grave.
Proverbs 18:22 (KJV) says, “Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord.” I indeed was lucky when that good thing found me (she originally asked me out), and I hope she feels herself equally blessed.
I leave you this week with more words of wisdom sent to me via email:
Pharmacist to customer: “Sir, please understand, to buy an anti-depression pill you need a proper prescription ...
Simply showing your marriage certificate and wife’s picture is not enough!
“Here you go.” Timmy lays his red and green house shoe down on his bed in front of Tripp.
“This will be a comfortable bed for you.” He pushes down inside it with his finger. “See? It has a thick foam insole.”
Tripp looks up to Timmy and raises an eyebrow. “You want me to sleep in your stinky house shoe?”
“It’s not stinky!” Timmy protests. “My Mamaw gave them to me last year and I only wore them when she was here.”
Tripp pulls glitter out of his pocket and sprinkles it inside the house shoe. “Just in case.”
“Very funny. Now hop in the shoe please.”
Year One, Week Forty-Eight
It was forty years ago this very month that I received a Christmas gift that I would even now not trade for thousands of dollars.
I’m not even sure how it came about, but somehow my mother began saving S & H green stamps. At some point Hensley’s IGA must have issued them, for I don’t remember my mother ever shopping anywhere else. Perhaps she had my sister Anna Mae, my brother Jerry, or Cousin Lizzie Norton get them for her, as they lived and shopped in Knoxville.
Chiropractic’s integration into professional sports medical teams has resulted in the creation of the Professional Baseball Chiropractic Society (PBCS). The first annual PBCS workshop was held in March 2015. Many of the team chiropractors in Major League Baseball were in attendance as well as a few from Minor League Baseball. This first seminar even included a surprise visit from former MLB manager Joe Torre, who took some time to address those in attendance on how beneficial chiropractic was not only to him, but also to the players on the teams he managed.
Can you parallel park? I did once, only once. I quit while I was ahead. It is hard to do. I need a forty acre field on a good day. How I ever got through life without bumping fenders trying to park, I'll never know. Yes, I do. I always looked for a diagonal parking space or a parking garage where the attendant parked my car.
A lot of folks had their first taste of snow recently, and since snow is more welcome during the Christmas season, I decided to use it as this week’s topic. Trouble is I’ve written several articles about snow in the past, so I had to dig harder to find something fresh to write about. I did find something surprising, that I’d have to classify as weird science. It involves something called heavy water, so prepare to go sub-atomic.
My favorite kind of chocolate to work with is cocoa. However, that doesn't work for making dipping chocolate. At least I don't know how to do that. I have several candy recipes I make every Christmas, but Anne's favorite is my Chocolate Bon Bons.
I came across this candy recipe a few years ago. It certainly didn't look like a candy recipe. What candy lists flour among its ingredients? This is the only one I know of.
The Tennessee North Rural Planning Organization (RPO) meets on Thursday the 13th of December to prioritize TDOT funded road projects in the RPOs seven county region. Union County does not have any TDOT projects under construction, although the SR-33 project from the Knox County Line to South of SR-144 was recently moved to the Construction Phase.
What a wonderful time of the year! Celebrating Christmas and the New Year with family and friends, good food, memories of Christmas’ past and creating new memories. The New Year is a time for making resolutions and planning for changes we would like to experience in our lives in the coming year. With only four weeks remaining in 2018, we are running out of opportunities to take advantage of tax planning.
Most of us probably do not even recognize the name of Arthur Ernest Morgan; yet for those of us living in the the rural communities of the Tennessee Valley, Morgan should be remembered every time we switch on our lights or plug in our computers. Arthur Morgan was the first Director of the Tennessee Valley Authority, but he was much more than just a political appointee or bureaucratic figurehead. Morgan, a civil engineer, was an expert in water flow and water control. He was a hands on director who busied himself with the most intimate parts of the TVA: the inner workings of the dams and the communities they served. As an engineer, he designed the dams, made the earth move, mined the rock, and poured the concrete. As a visionary, he designed communities with energy efficient housing and environmental consideration. As an educator, Morgan saw the need to teach the people to use better farming practices and to train people to use electricity to make their daily chores easier.
Fellowship Christian Church located at 746 Tazewell Pike Luttrell TN 37779 will pickup anyone in the local area needing a ride to church. Call Sam at 865-607-3741 to schedule a ride.
Sunday School 10:00 AM
Sunday Worship Service 11:00 A.M
Sunday Evening Service 6:30 P.M
Wednesday Service 7:00 P.M
Union County Election Commission meets on the 2nd Thursday of each month at 2:30pm in room 101 of the Union County Courthouse to conduct election business which comes before the commission pursuant to its duties listed in, but not limited to TCA $2-12-116, and to conduct any other business that may come before the election commission at that time. Union County Election Commission, 901 Main Street, Suite 108, Maynardville, TN 37807, (865) 992-3471 http://www.electionsunioncountytn.com
Tony Lynn Brogdon, Sr. “Pap”-age 58 of Knoxville passed away Monday, December 17, 2018 surrounded by members of his close family. He was a member of Stonewall Baptist Church. Tony was a dump truck driver but worked with skills second to none.
He is survived by his five children, Tony Brogdon, Jr., William Brogdon, Brandy Brogdon, Sheridan Brogdon and wife, Janet; Dixie Hopson and husband, Josh. He had many grandkids and siblings who loved him dearly and he will be missed. In lieu of flowers, the family ask for donations to be made toward Pap’s funeral service in his name.
Martha E. Berkley, age 92 of Knoxville passed away December 16, 2018. She was a member of Washington Pike Baptist Church. Martha retired from Knox County Circuit Court. She was a strong Christian woman, a devoted mother, and a loving wife. Preceded in death by William G. Berkley; parents Herman E. and Cassie Turner; brother H. Eugene Turner Jr.; granddaughter Jill Berry. Survived by daughter, Sharon B. Kirkland and husband Garrett; sons, Tobe Cowden and wife Chela, and Mike Berkley; 5 grandchildren; 7 great-grandchildren; 2 great-great-grandchildren.
Goneau Gentry Heath was born August 20, 1921 and went to her heavenly home on December 13, 2018 at the age of 97. Goneau was a longtime member of North Knoxville Baptist Church. She was preceded in death by her father, Cleve Gentry and her mother, Bonnie Stooksbury Gentry; Aunt who raised her, Cora Stooksbury; husband of 51 years, K.C. Heath; Brothers, Ray and Carson Gentry; Sister, Jessie Beeler; Granddaughter, Julie Hourigan; Son-in-law, James "Jim" Bean.
Wanda Faye Henry, age 81, of Corryton joined her husband in heaven on December 12, 2018 at Tennova Powell. Member of Clear Springs Baptist Church. Preceded in death by husband Harvey Henry; parents Luke and Elizabeth Everett; sisters Juanita Boling, Iola Chandler, Lelia Davis; and brother David Everett.
Rev. Gains Harrell Lewis, Sr.-age 86 of Maynardville went to his Heavenly Home Friday morning, December 14, 2018. Harrell, above everything else, loved the Lord Jesus Christ as his Saviour and preached and witnessed so others would do the same. He was saved and was a member of Hubbs Grove Baptist Church and attended Fellowship Christian Church. He had pastored Leatherwood Baptist Church and Head of Barren Baptist Church. He was proud to be a lifetime citizen of Maynardville, Tennessee and was well-known and had many friends and family.
Betty Sue Baumgardner – age 77 of Washburn, passed away on Tuesday, December 11, 2018. She was a member of Mount Calvary Baptist Church in Knoxville. Betty was a loving wife and enjoyed crocheting and quilting.
She is preceded in death by parents, Edgar and Dorothy Glover; sisters, Mary Ann Glover and Nell Harper. Betty is survived by loving husband of 60 years, Reverend Albert “Dick” Baumgardner; sister, Jenntte; brother, Edward Glover; and several nieces and nephews.
Nicole “Nicky” Tyson, age 42, passed away on December 11, 2018. She was an outgoing woman who never met a stranger. She was the happiest when surrounded by family, friends, and her fur babies, whom she was very passionate about. Nicky could light up any room she walked in and will be missed by many. She is survived by fiancé Kenny Thomas, daughter April Tyson (Boo), sons Nicholas Gene Beaver and Hunter Dylan Leon Foster, parents Janice and Jim Shipley, granddaughter Payton McKenzie Abshire, close cousin/sister Kelly Williams, and many aunts, uncles, and cousins.
Campbell, Charles "Charlie" Winton, age 68 of Corryton, adored daddy and the most treasured grandpa, was welcomed into the arms of his Lord and Savior on, Wednesday, December 12, 2018. Awaiting this great reunion day was Charlie's sweetheart and the love of his life, Glenda Kay Campbell, his beloved wife. Also preceding his death are; parents Henderson & Ruth Campbell and sister Katherine Ann Campbell.
Sonja Denise Brown-age 53 of Luttrell passed away Tuesday, December 11, 2018 at her home. She was a member of Mynatt Road Baptist Church in Halls. Preceded in death by father, Leonard Allen Ridenour.
Survivors: husband, David Lee Brown; mother, Reba Evelyn Ridenour; brother, Ronnie Lynn Ridenour and wife, Donna; sister, Donna Michelle Gordon and husband, Gerald. Several nieces, nephews and a host of friends.
Graveside service and interment 12 Noon Saturday, December 15, 2018, Dyer Cemetery, Powder Springs. Arrangements by Cooke-Campbell Mortuary, Maynardville.